WILL HAVING A BABY MAKE HIM STAY?
THIS IS A PROBLEM THAT I SEE ALL OVER MY FACEBOOK AND TWITTER NEWSFEEDS AND IT IS MOSTLY IN THE AFRICAN AMERICAN COMMUNITY. WOMEN THAT ARE ALREADY IN A UNSTABLE RELATIONSHIP WITH NO COMMITMENT HAVE CHILDREN BY MEN WITH HOPES THAT THE CHILD WILL SOLIDIFY THE RELATIONSHIP.IN MY OPINION AND IN MOST OF THESE INSTANCES BRINGING A CHILD IN A ALREADY STRAINED AND UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WILL CAUSE MORE STRAIN, RESENTMENT, AND MOST LIKELY THE PARENTS WILL HAVE PROBLEMS CO-PARENTING. CHILDREN ARE THE MOST BEAUTIFUL BLESSINGS FROM GOD HOWEVER, STATISTICS SAY THAT IT WILL COST A AVERAGE OF $10,000 FOR A CHILDS FIRST YEAR OF LIFE. FINANCIAL STRESS ADDED TO A ALREADY UNSTABLE RELATIONSHIP IS SURE TO PUT CRACKS IN THE FOUNDATION. SO LADIES THE IDEA THAT THE BABY WILL CHANGE YOUR CURRENT SITUATION IS TRUE HOWEVER, NOT IN THE MANNER YOU WOULD HOPE IT WILL ONLY MAKE YOUR SITUATION WORST. FIRST THING FIRST YOU BOTH HAVE TO WANT THE RELATIONSHIP TO WORK. THEN YOU CAN SEEK SOME COUPLES COUNSELING OR SPIRTUAL ADVICE, COMMUNICATION, HONESTY, AND TRUST ARE ALSO FACTORS IN CHANGING THE COURSE OF A FAILING RELATIONSHIP AND DON'T BRING A CHILD INTO IT UNTIL YOU HAVE A COMMITMENT SUCH AS MARRIAGE AND YOU HAVE A HEALTH, HAPPY, AND STABLE RELATIONSHIP.
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